Advice from another Sterling Graduate

August 1998

As a practical rule of thumb, anyone willing to trust someone to better themselves should first get some background or research of the institution that is coordinating the event. Blind faith can get you into bad circumstances.

Going into the weekend I had good intentions in mind; to better myself personally; challenge myself; create better relationships within my life. Pretty much normal goals any person might want to fulfill in one's life. However, I was in no way prepared for the next 48 Hrs.

After the "weekend", I found myself saying things that we're just not me. I had changed, but for the wrong reasons and the wrong way. There are better ways to achieve your goals.

A lot of emphasis is placed on trust going into the "weekend". However, once you are finished you are not to trust your spouse--go figure.

The secrecy factor, the sleep deprivation, lack of food and so on--seem to be the definition of a cult. Never in my wildest imagination would I think the "weekend" was leading in that direction.

I'm turning this negative experience into a positive one--by educating myself on support groups. My friendships have been enhanced because of the heartfelt support and understanding I've received from my wife and many friends.

A Man and woman need to come together in a relationship--not be divided. And trust is something you earn not demand.

"Artie" [aka Justin Sterling]--is one greasy jerk.